Keys to Success: The Power of Calendars in a Custody Case

A child custody case is often an emotionally charged and complex legal matter, with both parents vying for what they believe is in the best interests of their children. The journey through the South Carolina family court system can be arduous, but there are several tools that can greatly assist a parent in presenting a strong case. One such tool is a well-maintained calendar. In this blog post, we will explore the importance of keeping a comprehensive calendar during a custody case and outline the essential elements to include.

1. Accurate Documentation:

During a custody case, judges scrutinize each parent's ability to fulfill their parenting responsibilities. By maintaining a detailed calendar, you provide tangible evidence that demonstrates your involvement and commitment to your child's wellbeing. Every time you document your parenting activities, such as school events, extracurricular activities, medical appointments, or visitations, you create a record that portrays your dedication to your child's upbringing.

2. Evidence to Refute Allegations:

Unfortunately, custody battles can sometimes involve false accusations or misrepresentations. A meticulously maintained calendar can be a powerful tool to refute these claims. Keep track of any incidents or disputes, including information about behavior, conversations, or incidents that could impact your child's safety or well-being. Having a detailed timeline can serve as a foundation for your defense and help you present the truth if false allegations are made.

3. Demonstrating Consistency:

Custody cases can span several months or even years. Consistency is a crucial factor when determining the best interests of the child. By keeping a calendar, you can showcase your ability to provide a stable environment for your child. Document routine activities, such as mealtimes, bedtimes, and homework, to depict predictability and your commitment to maintaining a structured schedule.

4. Legal Compliance:

It is important to remember that court orders and agreements must be enforced and adhered to strictly. A well-kept calendar can serve as a reference to track visitation schedules, holidays, and any modifications made by the court. By doing so, you can ensure compliance, demonstrate your commitment to cooperation, and avoid any unintentional missteps that could negatively impact the case.

5. Demonstrating the opposing party's failure to visit:

Sometimes, parents don't take the time that is available to them to visit, all the while claiming that they want as much time as possible with their child when they come to court. Keep track of time that the other parent doesn't exercise visitation when he or she could have. An example would be where the court has ordered that one party could have a dinner with the children on Wednesday nights, but one excuse or another is given and the dinner visit is forgone. This is equally as important for those types of missed visits as it is for missed holiday and overnight visitation. Keeping a calendar of these events will help refresh your memory if you're asked to detail what visitation has looked like during the time leading up to filing, or during the pendency of the case.

What to Include in Your Calendar:

1. Parenting Time: Record the dates, times, and locations of each visitation, including any changes or cancellations communicated between both parents.

2. Communication: Document conversations, phone calls, emails, and text messages regarding parenting matters. This helps to create a clear record of open and effective communication and also helps to document any issues that may arise.

3. School and Extracurricular Activities: Note important events, parent-teacher conferences, school plays, sporting events, and any activities that showcase your active involvement in your child's educational and extracurricular pursuits, and note whether the other parent attends. If not, why not (if you're aware of their reason)?

4. Medical and Therapy Appointments: Record all medical visits, including preventive exams, vaccinations, and any therapy appointments, to demonstrate attentiveness to your child's health needs as well as whether the other parent attended.

5. Incidents and Altercations: Document any behavior or incidents that could impact your child's safety or well-being. Include details such as dates, times, locations, and a brief description of the incident.

By keeping an accurate and organized calendar, you provide yourself with a powerful tool to manage your custody case and ensure that the court has a clear understanding of your involvement and commitment to your child. Remember, working with an experienced South Carolina family law attorney can further enhance your chances of success in your custody battle. Call us at Sarji Law Firm for a strategy session, if you'd like to discuss your case.